impulsive self Age 15-25

Healthy – I act from my own system of meaning, independent of others’ expectations, defining my sense of self and how i love - on my own terms.

Unhealthy – I am shaped by the values, expectations, and feedback of others; my ability to love and be is defined through my relationships and social context. My identity is upheld by external approval. I love in ways that keep me safe, accepted, or needed rather than in ways that feel true. My capacity to connect is entangled with fear—of disappointing others, being abandoned, or losing belonging.